The process of change is for the courageous. To change you have to meet yourself honestly which takes determination and patience. Struggling with a rampant inner critic, I view myself harshly, expecting perfection. Nothing less.
Stress triggers coping mechanisms and perfection is a coping mechanism. Perfectionism is common in those living with eating disorders such as anorexia.
I’m working to understand where my core beliefs come from and accept that their validity. Most have served me well to date but some need a realignment. The past two weeks have been hard. I’ve banged into myself: splat. It’s a cycle, one I’m choosing to move away from.
The descent into a negative and conflicted state is rapid. Suddenly, I’m there. It would be easy to give into frustration, but I’m choosing to cut myself some slack.
If I don’t who will?
I fought this truth for many years but am beginning to see that everyone is flat-out with themselves. So I’m finally becoming more self-reliant than I ever imagined I would need to be. It is an empowering process. Sometimes it can be exhausting as fear and self-doubt aim to diminish my success.
I’ve found some things that work for me and ease the process of letting go. Here is my list:
- going to green spaces
- friends who value your uniqueness
- the loving presence of children
- chamomile tea
- lavender oil
- avoiding social media
- minimising violent or frightening films
- St. John’s Wort
- taking photos
Kindly share your thought, what helps you through the tough times?